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Dec 25, 2022
2 min

Friendship, not love is the magic ingredient.

Thanks to misplaced notions of romance spread by poets, authors, television and movies, many a potentially great bond between a man and a woman have been destroyed. Love is widely considered as the magic ingredient that is supposed to make people desire one another for lifetimes. In reality this is not true. Love is not a goal nor an end in itself but an ingredient of an ingredient in life and living. It is friendship, not love that is the magic ingredient in a successful or

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Oct 22, 2022
4 min

We create our own 'realities'.

During the war in 1948, American ambassador to the U.N. Warren Austin called upon the Arabs and Jews to settle their differences 'like good Christians'. The ambassador was sincere but trapped within his own 'reality' that the only faith in the world was Christianity. As a result he was promptly ignored. To survive we all create for ourselves a paradigm. Our paradigm of life being a set of references of how, where, when, why we should do and not do, what we like or dislike, wh

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Sep 22, 2022
3 min

Avoid Toxicity to be Peaceful and Happy

To protect our bodies we do not eat or drink toxic things, we also do not permit poisonous creatures and things to come near our body. But what about our minds and beings? Do we realise how harmful toxic people and thoughts can be to our happiness and peace of mind? Here are some thoughts based upon my own experiences. We humans, because of the higher, faster development and evolution of the human mind have come to dominate our world and all other creatures on earth. This i

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Aug 1, 2022
2 min

We can daily meet the Divine

If we examine our modern and urban lives, we discover that we are surrounded by artificiality. Almost everything we use, consume or interact with is man made. Except for family, friends, and playtime almost all our interactions with others is transactional and hence dominated by a sense of artificiality. The greater the pervasiveness of artificiality the less the possibility for us to realise happiness. I spend considerable time in my small terrace garden and I realise that i

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Jul 25, 2022
3 min

Is the 'problem', my problem?

"I have a problem", that is how many people often approach colleagues and bosses. We humans are fascinated by the problems of others because our basic instincts to both protect ourselves and see if we can benefit from 'the problem'. So we inevitably ask 'What is the problem?' Socially and politically asking more about the problem may not be a bad thing, but for a boss or colleague it can be very bad. Let me explain. 'What is the problem?' is an open ended question. As a resul

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Mar 6, 2022
2 min

Why does familiarity usually lead to contempt?

When we get together with friends and family we let down the masks we wear and drop the persona we adopt in front of the world, and mostly revert to being ourselves. Family and friendship seems to grant to us the privilege to be ourselves. And by ourselves we are often irrational, emotional and unique and that make individuals appear strange to others. Everyone is different and it is difficult if not impossible for people to be just like us and we constantly look for faults i

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Feb 27, 2022
2 min

Fundamental questions to answer to achieve goals.

We humans are constantly chasing something or the other, endeavouring to achieve goals. It is just our nature. Yet many, fail most of the time, in the bargain paying a huge price in resources, time and well being. Success is achieving what one set out to achieve, and therein lies the problem. We are in such a hurry to achieve success that most of us are unclear about what exactly we are pursuing. While our self confidence may be high, our goals are usually fuzzy. To achieve s

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Jan 30, 2022
1 min

The difference between Success and Happiness

It is easy to get confused between success and happiness, often mistaking them be similar. 'Success' is getting what we want. 'Happiness' is wanting what we have got. Success is a product of striving, and every striving is a journey. Journeying is like excellence, we never really arrive, for beyond each peak we conquer, another stands awaiting conquest. Happiness on the other hand, is a state of being, it only needs an awakening, and a realisation. In spite of the individual

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Dec 30, 2021
3 min

Death by Social Media?

Probably the most valuable thing we possess in equal measure is the time each one of us is given, 24 hours, that is 86,400 seconds a day. Love, wealth, fame, power, relationships etc. may come again and again, but time simply perishes. One of the secrets of successful people are that they know the value of time and the moment. One cannot be truly effective or efficient if our time is wasted by us or stolen by others. Government and organisational bureaucracy with their count

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Dec 15, 2021
1 min

Failure is not the falling down, but the staying down.

To continuously seek improvement is an intrinsic human quality. To be able to do is however altogether another matter. So man can only try. Sometimes we succeed and sometimes we do not. Success breeds not only success, it often breeds its ugly cousin, arrogance. Failure on the other hand can be debilitating. So many of us do not even try, lest we fall from grace, both in our own eyes and in the eyes of the world. Failure is often punished and attracts retribution. If an indiv

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Aug 30, 2021
3 min

I watch my mind more than I do my possessions

Since ancient times, Indians have called humans as 'Manav' or 'Manas' (Sanskrit for 'the being with a mind'). The powerful conscious and imaginative mind of humans with great memory has resulted in the rapid development and evolution of the human mind. Human intellect and superior intelligence has permitted us to dominate all other creatures. The evolved human mind has given us literature and language, the arts and science, spirituality and philosophy, technology and producti

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Aug 22, 2021
2 min

Ego, Esteem, Respect and Pride

Ego, ambition, self esteem, self respect, pride and arrogance are commonly used terms which are easily confused with one another. Ego, is our identification with the self. 'Who am I? What am I?' The ego defines our relationship with ourselves and our world, essentially providing meaning to the self to ensure survival, success and procreation. Ego is an abstract construct we have of ourselves. The ego feels real because we attach our ego to some perceived parameters in some fo

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Aug 4, 2021
3 min

Ego, is a must for success and happiness.

There is so much talk about not having an ego. Yet everyone has an ego no matter how humble they appear to be. The 'Ego' provides each individual a sense of identity of the 'self'. The self that must do or not do, that takes actions to ensure security, survival and procreation. The self we refer to is not one, but actually a number of selfs. The material, social, intellectual and emotional selfs we all know to some degree, and this is what we know as the ego. The same ego tha

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Jun 26, 2021
2 min

Eye of the Storm.

With winds reached speeds of 200 km/hr, two powerful cyclones, Taukate and Yaas lashed India in May 2021, leaving a trail of destruction in their path of awesome fury. When storms come, one can only brace oneself. If we have anticipated and prepared for storms we will be better off, otherwise we have to pay the price of our lack of understanding of and respect for nature. Our lives are just like these cyclones, we too can prepare and condition ourselves so as to escape the fu

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Jun 7, 2021
3 min

Being or Thing?

We are all constantly being bombarded with ideas and advice on how to achieve success, but rarely are we guided on how to realise happiness. Most people believe that if and when we becomes successful we will be happy, but this is not the case. Older folks always tend to ask youngsters, and children, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Many youngsters will answer that, they want to be this or that profession. It is shocking, how few of them show any enthusiasm at all f

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May 18, 2021
2 min

Marathon of life.

Life is like a marathon, in fact a number of parallel marathons. We all start our social life together with siblings, friends, associates and classmates. We run sporting marathons, intellectual marathons, political marathons, financial and business marathons, etc. Each marathon is different in its own way. We all start our individual lives at some stage, bunched together. Then as the marathon progresses some stragglers are left behind, some too weak or those who meet some mi

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Mar 27, 2021
3 min

Are Demons at work?

Like other members of my family I pursue goals with passion, and surprise myself and others by often succeeding. Could this have something to do with what my wife describes as our obsessive nature? Are Demons at work, when we are supposedly Obsessed or Possessed? What do we really mean by obsessed? Is obsession a bad thing? Permit me to throw some light. Obsession, from Latin 'obsidere' (to besiege), is a form of insanity caused, according to an invading spirit which takes o

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Jan 7, 2021
3 min

Management by Processes. A key to Success

The so called 'secrets of success' are no secrets at all. They are actually keys consisting of attitudes, skills, knowledge and discipline. One of the keys to success in any and every field is managing processes. What is a process? A process could be defined as a series of actions directed to some end. We may not realise it but everything we humans do is a process. In fact, every human initiated activity whether by design or default is a process. Life becomes easy when we ha

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Nov 30, 2020
1 min

May laugh at the old, but never at the young.

Experience and knowledge which usually comes with age and tells us what has happened. So we form strong opinions on what works and what does not, what is good or what is bad. We become fixed in our mind and we rigidly assume what happened in the past will happen in the future. In a sense we believe we have arrived at that intellectual destination where we smugly feel that we need little or no new learning. Almost impossible for adults to imagine a future much different from t

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Nov 24, 2020
2 min

What really is Experience, and its importance to Success?

All individuals that achieve success, commit errors, even blunders. Success or failure occurs only when we do something. If we are not making mistakes, we are probably not making anything. Fearful of failure, most of us dare not do anything. We often forget that, the path to success and happiness always passes through numerous disappointments, setbacks and failures. It can easily take ten years of hard struggle, mistakes and failures to become an overnight success. It is only

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