To protect our bodies we do not eat or drink toxic things, we also do not permit poisonous creatures and things to come near our body. But what about our minds and beings? Do we realise how harmful toxic people and thoughts can be to our happiness and peace of mind? Here are some thoughts based upon my own experiences. We humans, because of the higher, faster development and evolution of the human mind have come to dominate our world and all other creatures on earth. This i
Twenty four spokes unite in one hub and, on that which is non existent (the hole in the hub) depends the wheel's utility. Clay is moulded into a vessel and, on that which is non-existent (the hollow space within) depends the vessel's utility. Erecting walls and adding a roof we build a house and, on that which is non-existent (the empty space within) depends the house's utility. Hence it is clear to see, that That which exists renders the actual, but it is that which is non-e
"Owners of dogs will have noticed that, if you provide dogs with food, water, shelter and affection, they will think you are God. Whereas owners of cats are compelled to realise that, if you provide cats with food, water and affection, they draw the conclusion that they are God." ~ Christopher Hitchens In that sense, the nature of men are like dogs, and women are similar to cats. Men like dogs are easily manipulated and managed by those to whom they give their trust and love
When we get together with friends and family we let down the masks we wear and drop the persona we adopt in front of the world, and mostly revert to being ourselves. Family and friendship seems to grant to us the privilege to be ourselves. And by ourselves we are often irrational, emotional and unique and that make individuals appear strange to others. Everyone is different and it is difficult if not impossible for people to be just like us and we constantly look for faults i
Laughter is a natural and universal phenomenon witnessed in every society through all times. In some cultures it comes easy and increasingly in some societies it has been greatly repressed particularly in public. A society that cannot laugh is unnatural and one can judge how liberated a civilisation is, by how easily and openly the people laugh. Government officials, bosses of all kinds, rich and powerful people, priests and clergy, Masters and teachers, and in short, people
When we fall asleep, we literally fall from consciousness into unconsciousness, thus remain mostly unaware of what is happening outside or within us. When awake, we hover between consciousness and subconsciousness. The subconsciousness drives our involuntary functions and reflexes which requires no conscious effort and is a quality present in all living beings. We humans are unique amongst all creatures to possess consciousness, meaning we are conscious about time and space.
We are all constantly being bombarded with ideas and advice on how to achieve success, but rarely are we guided on how to realise happiness. Most people believe that if and when we becomes successful we will be happy, but this is not the case. Older folks always tend to ask youngsters, and children, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Many youngsters will answer that, they want to be this or that profession. It is shocking, how few of them show any enthusiasm at all f
Wish you Happy, Happy ..., Happy This, Happy That. Seasons greetings, are more common this time of the year. Yet in spite of the brave faces and the plastic smiles, hardly anyone feels particularly cheerful or happy. Instead of Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, the tone is definitely Merry Crisis and a Happy New Fear. Fear is driving a wedge between us. We have grown distant from one another over the past year and even more from ourselves, because of genuine but more so d
Conversations about stress and de-stressing, seem to dominate our lives. To talk about stress has become a fashionable but necessary need First thing to appreciate is that not all stress is bad. Without some stress we would not even be alive, an excess of stress incapacitates us. Too little or too much stress over a period of time can kill us. For a person to admit that he or she is not stressed is often considered an admission of non striving and the hallmark of a non-achiev
An American tourist desired to meet an Indian Mystic. So his hosts arranged for him to meet a Rishi (an enlightened being). On entering the small room, the American was astonished to see the Rishi's room and living space, so bare and simple. The only furniture was a mat and a few wooden utensils. Tourist :"With due respect, may I ask where's your furniture and other household things?" Rishi : "Where is yours?" Tourist : "Mine? But I'm only a visitor here." Rishi : "So am I..
Science has only confirmed a long known fact, that, when we do good not only we feel good, the person receiving the good and the person observing us doing good also feels good. A conversation with Prakash a decade ago might explain why many people do good and no one seems to be happy. As the group rested after our walk, conversation turned to wealth and poverty. In a rhetorical outburst, Prakash asked, "Who is to say who is poor? Many of these beggars are just too lazy to
It takes just as much labour and time to do something badly, as it is to do it well. So I always give everything I do, the best I can.
The advantage is, if my commitment bears fruit, I am delighted. When my efforts do not deliver the results expected, I am neither angered nor saddened.
I have discovered that, when one does something, in fact ,anything with devotion, one is happy.
The doing is now, the fruit may come later.
When one can evolve and be happy now, why postpone
We are not a half, looking for the other half to complete us.
We are complete by ourselves.
What we term as 'needing love' is the need for sympathy, understanding, compassion, friendship or even sex.
Those who demand love are beggars, those who give it are emperors.
Both never tire. The former, of asking, always remains dissatisfied and unhappy, the latter of giving, and always happy. Even if we seem to have lost love, we can always regain it. Because love is not somethin
Last year Mohini and I spent a quiet new year's eve. We visited the Gurudwara followed by a quiet dinner. Then the rest of the evening and night was spent at home, babysitting and enjoying the antics of our two naughty grandsons. As we grey, we spend a lot of time reminiscing. We recalled a new year we celebrated many, many years ago, in 1996. "Dad, can we come with you and mom this evening to the new year party?" asked our 15 year old son, Mohit, accompanied by his 13 year
Our home overlooks a designated forest, but over the years it had been neglected and abused and greatly denuded. It was a very sad state of affairs. One of the hallmarks of successful communities is that, they do not wait for the government and others to do for them what they can do for themselves. Some individuals and groups in the area felt very concerned. Tackling matters head on, they joined hands with all stakeholders and began to work together. Housing societies, govern
If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive.
If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself.
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy. If a child lives with jealousy, he learns what envy is.
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident.
If a child lives with
If you had a choice to be kind or to be right... Choose being kind because then you will always be right. ~ Zahir Meher Homji Being kind is just the first step. Even though I quote my noble friend Zahir, I feel there is something much more to be said. More than being kind is to be compassionate. What's the difference? An act of kindness towards another being always places an individual above another being. A hierarchy of someone higher, or powerful on one hand as a giver and
We may not be aware of it but every encounter with another being, effects us in some way or the other. This is why the ancients stressed upon the company we keep. Good, noble and loving people enrich us and some not so good people tend to impoverish us. With good fortune, it was on Guru Poornima (full moon) at the ashram of Baba Ishwar Singh in Dehradun (India) that my wife Mohini and I met a spiritual man, Kulwinder Singh who makes a living by driving a taxi in NewYork city.
Being eccentric by nature, people think I must be a billionare. In reality we are all eccentric. Since the opinions of others matters little to them only the powerful, wealthy and very poor, dare to display their true nature. The rest of the people have to struggle and conform to generally implied norms of behaviour. We are all wealthy, but we are mostly confused about what constitutes wealth. Money and assets by themselves cannot bring happiness. Happiness is not a goal but