The question is, 'Why does attraction always lands up causing us pain?' Fatal Attraction', remember the term? The question is, 'Why does attraction always land up causing us pain?' In reality not all attraction causes suffering, and here is why? Attraction often called 'love' has commonly come to mean only physical and sexual attraction. This serves only the animal nature of our biology. However, unlike other animals who merely exist in two dimensions of the physical and the
In spite of wanting to see his friend, the wise man restrained himself, thus not visiting his friend for many days. When he did go to visit him, his friend remonstrated, 'Why have you taken so long to visit?' The wise man replied, 'It is better than you asking me, why have you come again?' Friendships are strained and even lost by interacting either too rarely or too often. Friendship is like a 'Diya', an oil lamp. It requires a regular supply of fuel oil to keep the flame
Ages ago, I left India to settle down in Dubai, seeking to start life afresh. It was tough going for me. Dubai is like this alluring, gorgeous, woman. She is cunning, tough and has a stone for a heart. Even in crisis I retained my 'happy-go, genuine' type of nature. This makes it easy to make friends and develop relationships. I was soon busy, pursuing several projects. My bank manager Kannan and I soon became friends. I sought Kannan's advice on many things and he was more t
If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive.
If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself.
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy. If a child lives with jealousy, he learns what envy is.
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident.
If a child lives with
In 2002, due to unavoidable circumstances I left India, seeking to start life afresh in Dubai. It was tough going for me, Dubai is like an alluring gorgeous and clever woman with a stone for a heart. Even in crisis I retained my 'happy-go, genuine' type of nature. This makes it easy to make friends and develop relationships. I was soon busy, pursuing several projects. My bank manager Kannan and I soon became friends. I sought Kannan's advice on many things and he was more tha
If you had a choice to be kind or to be right... Choose being kind because then you will always be right. ~ Zahir Meher Homji Being kind is just the first step. Even though I quote my noble friend Zahir, I feel there is something much more to be said. More than being kind is to be compassionate. What's the difference? An act of kindness towards another being always places an individual above another being. A hierarchy of someone higher, or powerful on one hand as a giver and
Being eccentric by nature, people think I must be a billionare. In reality we are all eccentric. Since the opinions of others matters little to them only the powerful, wealthy and very poor, dare to display their true nature. The rest of the people have to struggle and conform to generally implied norms of behaviour. We are all wealthy, but we are mostly confused about what constitutes wealth. Money and assets by themselves cannot bring happiness. Happiness is not a goal but
My wife had served us a delicious meal and my thoughts flashed back to my mother. I had gone to meet my mother as I often did. As always with folded hands, I bowed to mother and touched her feet. Gripping me by the shoulders she picked me up and embraced me. The glowing delight on her face was all encompassing. After a brief update, she stood up and said, "You must be hungry? Let me get you some lunch. It's hot out there, you must be thirsty, what would you like to drink?" M
Effective Communication and Conversation is not only about speaking and getting through. It also involves winning people to our point of view. This makes it necessary not to say everything we want to but to leave unsaid what could cause offence, and alienate people. Somethings should also be left unsaid because it may distract us from our goals and objectives. A diplomat is someone who remembers a lady's name and her preferences but not her age Facebook - Twitter - linkedin
"A mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone." "A mature person has the
"The individual who can but does not read, has no advantage over the individual who is illiterate" ~ Gurvinder Singh Success is dependant on many factors, and is different for each individual. However there are certain traits that seems to be common for most successful people. One of the important commonality factors is that success people be they leaders in Business, Military, Social, Political or Religious they are voracious readers. This is because they have a huge cravin
"Reasonable people equally informed seldom disagree" ~ Varinder Singh From my book and Seminar on 'Effective Communication & Conversation' We are all trying to sell something. An idea, a product, an emotion, whatever it may be, it involves communication and conversation. To facilitate development of this vital trait, Guru Wonder conducts a one and two day program on 'Effective Communication & Conversation' Contact : Telephone: +91 957 951 0353 Email: Guru Wonder Facebook -
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Communication, is about getting through the barriers the recipients create around themselves. The greatest barrier is a listening block created by the recipient wishing to empty himself or herself of his or her views. If we want people to listen to us, we have to make adequate space for them and their views, irrespective of how trivial the matter or irrational they may appear. We have to listen to others to have ourselves heard. My son Amarprit now 34 years young often accom
From my book and Seminar on 'Effective Communication & Conversation' We are all trying to sell something. An idea, a product, an emotion, whatever it may be, it involves communication and conversation. To facilitate development of this vital trait, Guru Wonder conducts a full day program on 'Effective Communication & Conversation' Contact : Telephone: +91 957 951 0353 Email: Guru Wonder Facebook - Twitter - linkedin - SikhNet #argument #book #communication #conversation #di
About Guru Wonder: Facebook - Twitter - linkedin - SikhNet Most people fail to realise that Love is a matter of the heart and not a matter of the mind. Intellectuals, who are in the majority try to use their minds to dissect and analyse love. Naturally, they remain unsuccessful and scornful of love and lovers. They think them insane. However, Sometimes people mistake the flutter in their heart and often in the groin as love. They pursue that flutter and when satiated, discov