It is easy to get confused between success and happiness, often mistaking them be similar. 'Success' is getting what we want. 'Happiness' is wanting what we have got. Success is a product of striving, and every striving is a journey. Journeying is like excellence, we never really arrive, for beyond each peak we conquer, another stands awaiting conquest. Happiness on the other hand, is a state of being, it only needs an awakening, and a realisation. In spite of the individual
Most of my life has been devoted to my two passions, my family and my work. My family was adjusting, understanding and loving whereas my work was demanding, and unforgiving. When they were young, I tried to spend as much time as possible with the children of our large joint family. It's only now, that I realise the great impact our children had on enriching my life with joy and providing me powerful lessons about life which I had both consciously and subconsciously imbibed. N
Scientists have discovered that the maximum span of attention of a young child particularly a preschool child is less than 5 minutes. Yet each teaching session is more than 30 minutes long in most schools. No matter how important the subject may be or how sincere the child and teacher, if teaching is inappropriate it will only result in frustration, anger, and a great waste of time and resources. There are three basic ways to ensure attention and learning. The first is to sco
Generally speaking, until they are about 10 years of age, children are sure their parents are superheroes, clever, and the most loving people in the whole world. They are the best. When youngsters join college, at about age 16 they think, parents to be the biggest idiots in the world. Old fashioned, in thoughts and everything else. When they leave college at about 20, they do not think, they know their parents are outdated if not actually stupid. If they join the family busin
Last year Mohini and I spent a quiet new year's eve. We visited the Gurudwara followed by a quiet dinner. Then the rest of the evening and night was spent at home, babysitting and enjoying the antics of our two naughty grandsons. As we grey, we spend a lot of time reminiscing. We recalled a new year we celebrated many, many years ago, in 1996. "Dad, can we come with you and mom this evening to the new year party?" asked our 15 year old son, Mohit, accompanied by his 13 year
It seems we have lost the art of conversation. Here are some golden guidelines followed by Former President of India - Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam #AbdulKalam #APJAbdulKalam #brother #children #conversation #Guru #Gur_Wonder #Gurvinder #father #friend #India #Kalam #love #mother #officials #politician #President #relatives #respect #sister #talk #wife #worker My grateful thanks to Mr. J Jamshaid for this pearl
If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive.
If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself.
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy. If a child lives with jealousy, he learns what envy is.
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident.
If a child lives with
Being eccentric by nature, people think I must be a billionare. In reality we are all eccentric. Since the opinions of others matters little to them only the powerful, wealthy and very poor, dare to display their true nature. The rest of the people have to struggle and conform to generally implied norms of behaviour. We are all wealthy, but we are mostly confused about what constitutes wealth. Money and assets by themselves cannot bring happiness. Happiness is not a goal but
With very rare exception, my entire upbringing and education was in a all male environment. My interaction with females was very limited except for close family. For me females were alien. Growing up friendship or a meaningful relationship with girls was extremely difficult, because I grew up with two ridiculous and extreme views of females. One from our our culture that males were monsters and evil and females were goddesses, pure and angelic. The other view learnt from fr
My wife had served us a delicious meal and my thoughts flashed back to my mother. I had gone to meet my mother as I often did. As always with folded hands, I bowed to mother and touched her feet. Gripping me by the shoulders she picked me up and embraced me. The glowing delight on her face was all encompassing. After a brief update, she stood up and said, "You must be hungry? Let me get you some lunch. It's hot out there, you must be thirsty, what would you like to drink?" M
Many people ask, 'Why has it been that every society has placed great emphasis on preservation of female virginity until marriage?' Most people believe that its old fashioned nonsense instituted by patriarchal societies. Actually its evolutionary biology at work, where every creature's primary biological responsibility is to successfully pass on its genes to the next generation. Simply put 'survival of the fittest'. Humans are much too complex and hypocritical so scientists o
We are often advised not to run after wealth, power, influence etc. Yet we humans crave these things all the more. What could help explain this behaviour? Nature has designed creation such that, every creature once born, fights to survive, to reproduce, rear their young and to die. We humans are no different even though we have concealed this fact under tomes of religious and intellectual literature. Mating is carried out by a process of natural selection, wherein males and f
The difference between information and communication is that in information is giving out and communication, is getting through. When we simply give information we rarely get through but we mistakenly believe that communication has taken place. A broadcast may not have been heard, or understood, when that happens it ceases to be a communication. Closed loop communication is an effective to confirm that communication has indeed been effected. Facebook - Twitter - linkedin - S
The end objective of communication, is to trigger action in others. We are driven by emotion more than rationality. If we want people to act, we can persuade them by giving them pleasure of positive strokes or we can drive them through giving them discomfort. To bring about positive feelings take long and require great effort, but they are usually irreversible. Negative feelings are quick, require little effort and are usually irreversible. Facebook - Twitter - linkedin - Si
Facebook - Twitter - linkedin - SikhNet Investment in our young is the key to our future prosperity and happiness. At the request of my friend Jaiprakash Singh (JP), who runs the 'Sujata Schools' in Hyderabad and Moinabad, I held a discussion with the students from the 10th class. JP's idea was for me to inspire the children. Well I don't know about that, but I was certainly stumped by the students. At the end of our discussion, I posed the question to the girls and boys, 'W
About Guru Wonder on Social Media We always talk about learning from our elders, but rarely do we consider what our children can teach us? Most of us lead needlessly frustrating lives, and seek to vent our frustrations. Some people like bosses and teachers have more opportunity to bully but parents are probably the worse. We accumulate our frustrations with other people and things and bring garbage back with us, only to dump them on the people who love us most, our family and
During a visit to Kolkata, my cousin Raja, a deep and wonderful man, asked me, "How would you describe your relationship with your children?" Puffing my chest out, proudly, I replied, "Why, we are friends." He replied, "Forgive me Veer ji for pointing it out, but your children have many friends, where as they have only one set of parents. The only people who will be firm and honest with people are their parents and their genuine teachers." I was irritated that my cousin 15 ye